Archive for March, 2014

You know what it is deep down and most of the time it’s staring you in the face.
How can you tell it’s your purpose?
• You like doing it meaning it’s enjoyable
• You do not do it for money but for the love of it (It makes you light up/ come alive)
• It comes naturally to you; you don’t have to force it
Once you have identified what you love doing addressing the three points above you can start making a simple plan. I like keeping things uncomplicated and simple. I realized that people make things more complicated than they really are and this sometimes intimidates people into pursuing their talents. So here is a simple and quick way to start
Turn it into a hobby. If it’s something like making creams, sewing, weaving, doing hair, gardening etc. Then you can start to advertise your skills by gifting your friends and family. Let people know what you do and give it to them gifts (samples) and ask for their honest feedback so that you can improve the product. Of course this is only if you intend to turn this into a business in the long-term.
Avoid the naysayers: They only make you think of all that can go wrong and usually almost never offer any solutions. Surround yourself with people who enjoy what you enjoy and offer you constructive feedback and support.
Finally be patient and definitely don’t give up!

00-drboycewatkinsI would like to say this article to me should be considered by EVERY parent, black, white, yellow, single or married, divorced or in a relationship it doesn’t matter.Read it with an open mind and take what you need discard what you don’t need. Basically if it doesn’t apply let it fly! Enjoy:o)

Six ways single mothers can raise a sorry Black man

These words come from a man who has seen too many Black men grow up to become irresponsible, self-absorbed, excessively entitled, weak men, largely because they were coddled at home. This does not always happen at the hands of a single mother, but it almost always occurs due to parents who do not understand their role in raising intelligent and responsible human beings.

Let’s be clear: If you raise your son to be a boy, he’s going to remain a boy. Typically, strong male role models make it easier to build manhood; mothers cannot usually do it alone.

This is a comedic exaggeration, but perhaps we can think while we laugh. And before we get into the tired diatribe about this being some kind of assault on single Black mothers, understand that if I hate single Black mothers, that means I hate my late grandmother.

My own mother was a 17-year old single mom until she married my second father three years after I was born. And it was her commitment to raising me with more discipline than my male friends that guided me away from the same gutters, prison cells, and rehab clinics that many of them occupy to this day.

So, if you want your son to grow up to be a horrible father and husband for somebody else, here are a few things you can do:

1. Never make him accountable. If he goes to jail, mortgage your house to pay for the attorney. If he gets fired from his fourth job in a row, of course it’s because he’s Black. Anything that goes wrong in his life, explain to him why none of it is ever his fault. Make a long list of excuses for everything he does. If he gets in trouble at school, it’s the teacher’s fault. If he has an angry outburst and attacks someone, it’s because he had too much sugar. Remember: Nothing that he ever does wrong, to anyone, at any time, is ever his fault. Jesus will make him better eventually.

2. Allow him to be lazy. Clean his room for him, wash his clothes, don’t make him do any chores. Don’t make him work for anything….EVER. When he’s 32-years old, let him live in your basement and spend the day in his drawz smoking weed and playing Xbox. He’ll get that record deal eventually.

3. Don’t ever force him to manage his money. Buy him a lot of really expensive material possessions, like $250 Air Jordans and don’t make him work for any of that money. If he wrecks the new car you bought him, just buy him another one. Don’t talk to him about saving, investing or being a good provider. If he wants that 14th tattoo on his neck, go ahead and give it to him.

4. Congratulate him for being a “playa.” Let him treat his girlfriends like garbage without your saying a word. When he tells you that he got a fourth girl pregnant, just congratulate him and agree to watch the kids while his baby mama is at the club.

When the third baby’s mama asks you about the other girls coming to the house, lie for him so as not to blow his cover. The world is his oyster, and he has a right to sow his oats without any semblance of responsibility. Don’t forget to save money to pay his child support for him so he can be free to make more kids without the burden of those gold-digging newborn babies.

5. Don’t make him get an education. If he brings home straight Ds on his report card, just remember that he’s the best player on the basketball team. Go buy him something nice to make him feel better, since those bad grades are going to hurt his self-esteem.

6. Coddle him. He’s your baby after all, even if he is 6’3”, 250 pounds. Never throw him out to the wolves; he won’t make it. Never force him to stand on his own two feet; he might break a toe nail. He doesn’t have to be a man for anybody; he’ll always be your baby. If his wife comes around and complains that he’s cheating on her, beating her, or not taking care of his kids, explain to her that he was your man from the very beginning, and he always will be. They should just leave your baby alone.

Overly sensitive single mothers may take this (admittedly exaggerated) article to be an attack on them. Instead, it is a clarion call for mothers to realize the importance of their role in building a nation.

If we build weak men, then we have weak families. Weak families lead to weak communities and White America has its foot on our collective neck. I argue that Black men should be at the forefront of those fighting to stand strong against oppression, but too many of our men have not been raised to be leaders.

The first teacher
The mother is the first teacher and the most influential person in the life of nearly any child. If she becomes so fixated on the high of oxytocin that comes from the love of a child, she may fall short in her role of shaping that boy to become the leader of someone else’s household.

Had my mother and grandmother failed to do their jobs and not provided a strong male role model for me (since my biological father had other things to do), I wouldn’t be the man that I am today. Instead, I would still be my mother’s baby.

Most of us know men who fit into this role, and we must realize that manhood must be taught. A single mother truly believing that she can raise a boy to be a man is as misguided as my thinking that I can teach my daughters the subtleties of womanhood.
It’s time to put an end to the nonsense.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a professor of finance at Syracuse University. Read his columns and weblog at http://www.boycewatkins.com.

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Hate Em Love Them I’m Grateful for them!

Think feminists are just angry women? I agree! Fully, Who wouldn’t be angry at what we see happening to women and girls everyday especially when you are a woman. Who? Please stand up if you are a woman who is not angry at the current state of the world and position that women have been forced to into. Tip of the Iceberg 2014 still at it : Iraq mulls law to let men marry 8-year-old girls (http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2014/mar/14/iraq-mulls-law-let-men-marry-8-year-old-girls/)
Do you see these girls having any rights? Not to mention FGM (female genital mutilation) still going today with support of both men and women who somehow believe that cutting off a woman’s or girls clitoris is somehow okay, women been raped and molested on a daily just for the hell of it like the Indian woman who was raped by a group of men on a bus or some women and girls are simply killed just because they are women or girls, some countries encourage killing women even before birth or after they are born because they prefer boys. This list is endless and if this continues I dare not think of where our society if headed.These are our mothers, sisters, aunties and daughters. As it is there are millions of women and children missing as of 2011 approximately 160million women were missing (http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/27/opinion/27douthat.html?_r=0 ) we are in 2014 so please do the math. It’s an epidemic!
So for you women who stood up are you still standing? It’s okay to sit down now!
So i am grateful for women rights organisations, feminists groups yu name it anyone and everyone who fights for women and children to be treated with the respect they deserve and for sure if we did not have these organisations and institutions, or any form of feminist movement, i.e women who refuse to be treated as second class citizens I don’t even want to begin to think about where we would be today. They have been fighting for years and continue to fight to build a fence of protection for other women and children.
Globally women have none or very limited to valuable resources, land etc you name it they are not the majority shareholders. They do not control the wealth in ANY nation so therefore they are with very limited power to control and protect themselves. They are not the majority in the judicial system in ANY country, and have been reserved as the sex class and outside of that role women and girls are treated like they are of little to no value to men, who currently hold the power after all ‘He who pays the piper calls the tune’ so as long as it stays this way there will be dire consequences.
So what are you going to do about this situation? Remember Charity begins at home!!

Kenya: Great News From Kenyatta National Hospital

8 March 2014

As we celebrate International Women’s Day, it is poetically fitting that we have just learned of a breakthrough in the treatment for cervical cancer.

The report has it that in clinical trials, carried out by scientists working at the nation’s largest referral hospital, a drug commonly used in the treatment of HIV+ve patients was found to be capable of killing off the human papilloma virus that causes cervical cancer.

Like all effective research in the 21st century, this breakthrough research was a collaborative effort involving not only Kenyan doctors and researchers, but also their colleagues from the University of Manchester’s Institute of Cancer Sciences.

In Kenya, as in many developing countries, HPV-related cervical cancer is still one of the most common forms of cancer afflicting women, and leads to many deaths.

The fact that there is now a ready treatment, which involves neither surgery nor injections, is a huge blessing to all those who have been under threat of this deadly virus.

But even as we celebrate this good news, we must acknowledge that there is so much more that needs to be done. Women, along with children, bear a disproportionate burden of illness and life-threatening conditions, in most developing nations.

The maternal death rate in Northern Kenya, for example, remains unconscionably high, as does the infant mortality rate in the country. An estimated 50 per cent of all women giving birth, still do so outside hospital facilities, putting their health as well as the well-being of the newborn baby at risk.

All in all, there is a need to rapidly improve the health services available to women all over Kenya – and indeed this is a matter of fundamental human rights as enshrined in the constitution.

So, on this International Women’s Day, as we celebrate the milestones of the achievements that have been made, let us also bear in mind the battles yet to be won, that still lie ahead.

QUOTE OF THE DAY: “When knowledge becomes rigid, it stops living.” Anselm Kiefer, is an artist known for his paintings, sculptures and photography. Born on March 8, 1945.

 Staff and doctors at Kenya’s biggest referral hospital, Kenyatta National Hospital (KNH), went into celebration mood after one of their own in partnership with two researchers from the UK discovered a permanent cure for cervical cancer.

 
Addressing the press, KNH CEO, Lily Koros Tare, confirmed the discovery of a cure for early stages of cervical cancer at the hospital, the first one in the whole world, saying the finding would help save millions of women who die of cervical cancer all over the world.
 
“The message today is not just about mourning and despair; we stand surrounded by heroes who have identified a solution for cervical cancer”, said the KNH CEO.
 
Dr. Innocent Orora Maranga, a consultant at KNH, and two British researchers Dr. Ian Hamson and Dr. Lynne, both from Manchester University, UK, discovered that the HIV antiviral drug, lopinavir, cures cervical cancer completely.
 
“We screened 820 women and settled on 40 patients who had cervical cancer. We put them on HIV drug lopinavir for 2 weeks which they had to apply in the birth canal on their own at home. This was for a period of two weeks while we kept monitoring them. The results were amazing with a cure rate of over 90% confirmed after only 3 months”, explained Dr. Maranga.
 

Ordinarily, the drug is used orally by HIV patients, but to treat cancer, Dr. Maranga explained, it would require a very high doses which could be toxic hence they designed a method of applying it directly into the birth canal.
 
The drug kills Human Papilloma Virus, which causes cervical cancer, completely.